Have you ever found yourself aimlessly swiping right on every Rick, Dick, or Nancy that comes across your dating app profile, even though you have no real intention of ever actually meeting up with them IRL? You're swiping right on them without any real intention of even starting a conversation with them on the app. Allow me to explain.'s Carina Hsieh first coined the term in a piece published this past Friday. If you haven't done this, good for you but, if you have, it looks like you're a culprit of the newest dating trend: "obligaswiping." What is obligaswiping, you ask?In the piece, she explains that she came up with the term "because it’s inspired by an obligation to prove to myself that I’m 'putting myself out there.' Really, I just want the cheap and easy route: a bunch of matches with hot guys I could 'totally date if I wanted to' but who I don’t care enough about to follow through." If you're a human being who has ever been single and swiping on a dating app, I Hsieh goes on to explain the cycle that obligaswiping tends to work in.
First, she said, comes the realization that you've been single while all your friends have been coupling off.Next comes the shame of being the only single friend and the subsequent attempt to rectify the situation by getting busy swiping on apps.For Hsieh (and you if you've ever done this), the sudden onslaught of matches brought about by the spike in swipes results in a loss of interest.According to her, by the time she gets the matches, she finds herself "too exhausted to try to volley conversation back with a stranger." Seeing the mass amount of matches in her inbox makes her feel like she'll simply never be able to get through all of them.
Eventually she gives out her number to a few of the matches but a date never actually materializes.Finally, she swears "swears off dating apps for a month or two" and then repeats the whole process all over again. Nikki Goldstein, a sexologist and relationship expert and author of she chalks obligaswiping up to the common assumption that we, ourselves, are responsible for the feeling of loneliness when we're single.“[It] can shift that feeling of being responsible for being single,” Dr.